I've always lived by the creed that you're never a failure in life if you fall as long as you try and get back up.
I wanted to come back and write a little more, but from the perspective of your mom. I know that you are so proud of her that your heart is about to burst, and that is sooo sweet! I was divorced when my son was about 10, but prior to that, my son was the one who "busted" my H fooling around with my daughters' best friends' mom.
It breaks my heart that that little fella had to make the choice of keeping his dads secret, or outing him to me, and breaking up our family for good. I hate my ex for doing that to my son. My son chose to "out" his dad and brought me his dads secret hidden cell phone one evening. There was no denying anything at that point. It was over, and of course, my 10 year old son thought it was his fault. My ex has continued to move in with woman after woman and they usually have kids, so he has had to become used to his dad living with other kids and giving those kids his attention and gradually ignoring my son and his sister more and more.....
I just wanted to give you that background because my son is my hero. He has been faced with obstacle after obstacle and he always comes out on top, and he always takes care of his mom. He is an honor student and a baseball player who is always picked for the most elite teams in our area. Yet, he is humble and kind and he even though he is only 13, he is now the man of our house and he takes that very seriously. He deals with all my many health issues, and never ever complains even when my limitations makes him miss things that all the other kids get to do. He is my heart, my pride and my joy.
So, what I wanted to tell you, is that as proud as you are of your mom, she is even more proud of you! I can guarantee that you are one of her main motivations for being where she is. The love between a mother and her son is something very special, it is boundless. You, no matter how old you get, will always be her baby boy. She would move mountains to see you happy and I know you would do the same for her. You are both very lucky to have each other and to have that bond that can never be broken.
So, be there for her, but also, take good care of yourself while she is gone because she will be worrying about you too, we just can't help it, that is what we do as moms.
My thoughts and prayers will be with you both, take care.
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That's great news, I'm very happy for you. You do reach an age when you just can't be arsed with the chaos of addiction. I hope your Mom gets what she wants out of her treatment. You get what you put in at rehab. Sounds like she's ready to put the work in.
This is fantastic news.
Have you gotten an update from her yet?
How have you been faring since she left?
I miss her of course, But I'm holding up well.
I just am tying up other loose ends for her, court dates etc. They're not letting her use the phones til Tuesday, but you KNOW I have been calling and asking for updates. They love her so far (she can be quite charming, it's where I get it from)and say she's doing very well, only day 3 though so IDK, I'm staying optimistic. Thanks again for everyones good vibes and support.
“ I can’t think of anything off the top of my head that seems more important than something designed to raise money to keep something going that keeps IV drug users from dying. ” - Elliott Smith
ML, Thats fantastic! i'm really happy for both you and her. It's such a wonderful wonderful wonderful thing when someone who i know is nearly exactly my age (you posted your bday within 9 days of mine) has a true love more then anything for there mom the way i love mine... I'll send my special energy her way and wish you both the best
Where There Is A Will, There Is A Pill
Yeah, good luck with this...a whole lot will depend on what she does when she gets out...if she goes to meetings, aftercare, all that corny stuff, she has a chance...best wishes tho, I never had this one...
Hey ML that's really great news! I really hope she gets what she needs out of this.
Nothing left to say that hasn't been said.
I wish her many good vibes and the best of luck.
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“I loved when Bush came out and said, 'We are losing the war against drugs." ....You know what that implies? There's a war being fought, and the people on drugs are winning it!!" ~Bill Hicks
Congrats on the great news about your Mom! It is so moving to see how proud and loving you are about your Mom. She is a courageous person. I see now where you get it from!
My Dad was a Meth addict. I was never close to him so I can only imagine the strength it took to be the parent in your house hold.
I believe that Duckfeet's post is worth reading and maybe even printing out and taping to
the mirror. I had to go that way to obtain a good result. I try not to preach about it but if it was my Mom I would put all of my opinions on the subject aside and help her try that way.
I know one thing for sure, she is really blessed to have a loving son like you! I will be sending positive thoughts and prayers for both of you....