Smoking pot in front of your children

[chemboy7]

What's your stance on it?

My nephews are 3 and 5 (I think) and my brother and his wife smoke around them constantly. I've tried gently persuading him this might not be the greatest idea. Not that I have a problem with the kids knowing that they (we) smoke pot... I couldn't care less, I don't see the harm it'd cause. I'm against the idea because the oldest goes to public school. I remember when I was in elementary school the dare officers would give us signs to watch out for if our parents were using drugs, and if they were to report it to the school. If it happened I doubt the cops would even bother with it, but I bet social services would fuck with 'em.

Maybe I'm just paranoid, but it seems like a dumb idea to me.

[Larkin]

i absolutely agree. Its a dumb idea, and its just unnecessary. people can easily just go outside or another room, and what if the kids goto school smelling like pot and a teacher notices? I just think its lazy to not avoid it. and wait til the kid is old enough to make his own decision on the drug before they are exposed to it

[Flowergirl]

Oh HELL no. Not in a million years would I ever. That's my stance on it.

Do they smoke around little ones in their home?

[Brony]

I don't have kids, but if I did, I wouldn't consume any illegal substance in front of them. Like Larkin said, they could easily remove themselves from where the kids are when they fire up. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for, and I don't think it is so far fetched to imagine the oldest child saying something about "Mommy and Daddy smoke funny smelling cigarettes...yadda yadda yadda" to one of their teachers, and them having it escalate from there.

No drugs in front of kids.

[ausativa]

it aint like shooting dope in front of your kids.

its just a plant, shit.

[chemboy7]

it aint like shooting dope in front of your kids.

its just a plant, shit.

I agree. My issue isn't with the drug, it's that the kids might talk about it in school... I could see that ending badly.

It absolutely blows my mind when I'm over there. My sister in law babysits for her friends and she smokes in front of them too. Nobody cares either. It just seems like a senseless liability to me.

We live in a medical state too. I've tried to talk them into at least getting their card and getting legal if they're going to do that shit, but you can only lead a horse to water.

[thatoneguy]

My dad did his whole life, but I don't especially in doors. During the summer when im at the river fishing they'll be down on the beach I'll walk up the car a couple 100 feet away and take a couple puffs but they ain't paying attention

[smokey]

besides the kid chatting about it to the wrong people, which has a high chance of happening sooner or later. do you think this will increase the chances of the kid using drugs in the future himself? there is a reason why marijuana is a sched 1 drug right next to heroin, the dea says sched 1 drugs "The drug or other substance has no currently accepted medical use in treatment in the United States." which mj does, but they say its sched 1 because it is a "gateway drug" which i agree that it is for a lot of people.

[ausativa]

besides the kid chatting about it to the wrong people, which has a high chance of happening sooner or later. do you think this will increase the chances of the kid using drugs in the future himself? there is a reason why marijuana is a sched 1 drug right next to heroin, the dea says sched 1 drugs "The drug or other substance has no currently accepted medical use in treatment in the United States." which mj does, but they say its sched 1 because it is a "gateway drug" which i agree that it is for a lot of people.

i think hydrocodone is much more of a "gateway drug" than cannabis. i only smoked weed, for years, but it wasn't until i experienced that first opiate high, that my life turned into a complete downward spiral.

once you open pandora's box....

[chemboy7]

besides the kid chatting about it to the wrong people, which has a high chance of happening sooner or later. do you think this will increase the chances of the kid using drugs in the future himself? there is a reason why marijuana is a sched 1 drug right next to heroin, the dea says sched 1 drugs "The drug or other substance has no currently accepted medical use in treatment in the United States." which mj does, but they say its sched 1 because it is a "gateway drug" which i agree that it is for a lot of people.

I don't agree about the whole gateway drug thing. If people want to get high, they'll get high. I know many people that only smoke pot and/or drink who would never even consider using other drugs. That being said, I don't care if my nephews become potheads down the road. I kinda hope they do, I'd love to get baked with 'em when they get older.

I was just asking chem if he thought this may raise the kids chances of using in the future.

If your talking about weed, I'd have to say it probably does.

[Larkin]

pot is only a "gateway drug" because you have to goto a drug dealer to get it. Take the shady drug dealer away and its no more of a gateway drug than booze, infact less IMO

[smokey]

Aus: weed was not a gateway drug for me either, the first drug i used was tweak, and of course the 1st time i tried heroin i did not stop using daily for fuckin years...but i know a lot of ppl that started smokin bud, and it did lead them to 'experiment' with other drugs. I have nothing against it, i may even consider it my 1st substance that i actually enjoyed, i smoked for a very long time, have not touched it in over a year now tho.

I was just asking chem if he thought this may raise the kids chances of using in the future.

[happy daze]

Nah, I don't smoke in front of them. I don't want the smoke in their lungs. Or the possibility that someone would butt in to my business because they said something during recess. AND TOO, when I am stoned, just about the last thing that I want to do is parent my kids. So, only when I'm not with them, or they are asleep and staying that way.

So many reasons not to...and I don't like pot enough to come up with arguments for the other side.

[ausativa]

i with you smokey. of course one has to ask the question... is any mind altering substance, a potential gateway drug? i think that if my parents were more strict about my pot use as a young teenager, my life could of turned out a lot different. then again, every choice i made about using drugs, was mine, and mine only, to make, so cannot place the blame on anyone but myself.

there are many factors that contribute to addiction, and the path that leads to it. And while some paths are shorter than others, down the road of drug use and abuse, there are many exits, and opportunities, to get off the road to nowhere.

[thatoneguy]

It's only a gateway drug because It's easy to get

[Disconnect]

pot ain't a gateway drug.
everyone smokes pot these days.
young, old, whatever.

I do, however, agree that hydroc is a gateway drug.
it was mine, that's for damn sure.


EDIT: back to the topic,
yeah, stupid idea with peeping eyes watching and all.
keeping your use anything but top secret with little ones around
is begging to get them taken away.
I saw too many mothers in rehab, there to keep their kids.
it was really sad. I wasn't even sure what to say to them.

in a perfect world, it wouldn't have to be this way
and people would judge parents by their parenting,
not whether or not they use drugs.

but then again, in a perfect world,
I wonder if we'd even want drugs to begin with.

[SHELLEY]

it aint like shooting dope in front of your kids.

its just a plant, shit.

amen
and in my state, you don't lose your kids for weed
other drugs, yeah your shit will get fucked up
i'll smoke a j in my yard while jaz bounces on the trampoline, sure
and any all day trip to the beach def involves both young children and good green
i won't pull out a bubbler while we're chilling together, or spark a blunt in the car while she's riding in the backseat
and never in the house (smoke inside is icky)
but i don't really see the bfd

other drugs are out of the fucking question

[Ironic]

I just wanted to say +1. Marijuana is no biggie, but you gotta step outside, preferably when the kids are asleep. You don't want your kids inhaling any unnecessary smoke, no matter what it comes from.

And for the derail (@Smokey), I believe that marijuana is only considered a "gateway drug" because of its legal status (as many here have already pointed out) and not for any other reason. Alcohol is the real gateway drug.

[radioactive_man]

Marijuana? Marijuana isn't a drug! You ever sucked dick for marijuana?

But in all seriousness, it is probably a good idea to keep that shit on the down low. Maybe they should tell the children that it is medicine for adults only. Obviously, as it had already been stated, you don't want the kiddies to say something incriminating to some sort of authority figure. That would be a really crappy reason to have ones kids taken away.

[chemboy7]

Marijuana? Marijuana isn't a drug! You ever sucked dick for marijuana?

But in all seriousness, it is probably a good idea to keep that shit on the down low. Maybe they should tell the children that it is medicine for adults only. Obviously, as it had already been stated, you don't want the kiddies to say something incriminating to some sort of authority figure. That would be a really crappy reason to have ones kids taken away.

The only precaution they take is using stupid names for weed, bongs and joints. It's so fucking ridiculous. They credit the idea to me for bringing up my concerns about it, but I told them how incredibly stupid I thought it was. "Hey, let's start calling weed 'tobacco' and 'bongs' pipes"... I love 'em, but they can be rather dense. How much easier would it be to go smoke in their bedroom? Using his logic why not call his dick a spaceship and start fucking in front of them too?

You know how sometimes you know better what someone should be doing than they do and they wont listen to you? Grrr. People piss me off sometimes.

edit - Thinking on it a bit, I'm sure people have thought they knew better what I should be doing than I did too. I still think I'm right about this. I'm not going to press it hard though, I'm not like that. I voiced my concerns, if they take it to heart that's great; if not, I said my piece. They know my stance.

[duck]

Yeah im not down with it. As a kid my father would take me to his lawyer/friends house to play with his kids and they would always go upstairs into the office with the door shut to smoke weed & snort coke. I appreciated the gesture.

[SHELLEY]

i'd be pissed if some asshole walked into my crib
and started telling me what i should and shouldn't do with MY kids\
people sure can piss me off sometimes. grr

[chemboy7]

i'd be pissed if some asshole walked into my crib
and started telling me what i should and shouldn't do with MY kids\
people sure can piss me off sometimes. grr

Maybe you misread me. I would never do that. We were having a conversation and I brought up my concerns. They actually appreciated my advice, as I was not preachy but just trying to be a good older brother and look out for them.

If they didn't get offended by my opinions certainly no one on the internet should. Grr.

[nick]

I'd drag 'em kicking and screaming to get a MMJ card-well maybe not drag 'em,but you get the point.It's the best solution to the situation.

I don't smoke when I'm in loco parentis-it's a personal thing inspired by the fact that Milly can outsmart when I'm straight,if I were high she'd have me turning tricks!!

[chemboy7]

I'd drag 'em kicking and screaming to get a MMJ card-well maybe not drag 'em,but you get the point.It's the best solution to the situation.

Oh, I've tried talking him into it (not that I knew it'd fix the problem). Regardless, he's cheap. Why pay $100+/yr for a card when pot is so prevalent? They don't see the obstacles I do. I'd hate for my nephews to be taken away from me (us) because of someone else's stupid behavior. I try to be beneficial, it'd be a lot easier if people listened to me about this shit though. I'm not pulling this outta my ass.

[miked138]

That's a tough one, trying to hide it from them could bring about problems just as fast as doing it in front of them, the reason i say this is, anti drug programs in schools have been known to burn small amounts of marijauana and ask "has anyone ever smelled this at home" which i don't care how hard you try, kids aren't stupid, they will smell it at some point and in this situation, the cats already out of the bag so to speak., so if the kids haven't been talked too and given the this is not the evil thing the govt makes it out to be sorta talk, they might say something and unknowingly cause you many problems.

[happy daze]

That's a tough one, trying to hide it from them could bring about problems just as fast as doing it in front of them, the reason i say this is, anti drug programs in schools have been known to burn small amounts of marijauana and ask "has anyone ever smelled this at home" which i don't care how hard you try, kids aren't stupid, they will smell it at some point and in this situation, the cats already out of the bag so to speak., so if the kids haven't been talked too and given the this is not the evil thing the govt makes it out to be sorta talk, they might say something and unknowingly cause you many problems.

Jesus Christ, they do that in anti-drug programs at school? I have NO intention of allowing my kids to get such brain washing. Wish me luck.

[Ironic]

Oh, I've tried talking him into it (not that I knew it'd fix the problem). Regardless, he's cheap. Why pay $100+/yr for a card when pot is so prevalent? They don't see the obstacles I do. I'd hate for my nephews to be taken away from me (us) because of someone else's stupid behavior. I try to be beneficial, it'd be a lot easier if people listened to me about this shit though. I'm not pulling this outta my ass.

Chem, do you consider them to be good parents? Not because they smoke weed (obvs) but because they really don't seem to care if they have their kids taken away (I could be misreading that, somehow, but that is what I gather from your story) I mean, when you say "What happens if your kid says something to someone at school and DCF shows up?" What do they say? Do they care?

It seems like a really horrible idea. Personally, I would never even risk it but that is why in my hetero and tricking days I was really careful about condoms. I couldn't handle the responsibility of a child.

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That's a tough one, trying to hide it from them could bring about problems just as fast as doing it in front of them, the reason i say this is, anti drug programs in schools have been known to burn small amounts of marijauana and ask "has anyone ever smelled this at home" which i don't care how hard you try, kids aren't stupid, they will smell it at some point and in this situation, the cats already out of the bag so to speak., so if the kids haven't been talked too and given the this is not the evil thing the govt makes it out to be sorta talk, they might say something and unknowingly cause you many problems.

I think this is a very good idea for when the kids are older, but a five year old isn't gonna understand.

[seven10kids]

morally i dont think there is anything wrong with pot around kids, but the cops blow it out of proportion.

Cop comes to your door for some stupid reason, house smells like pot, he sees kids or kids toys, gets probable cause and you could be looking at child endangerment charges.

Other drugs, I say, to each their own, but it was kinda sad that in like 5th grade some kids would know what "dope" was. And they werent talking about pot. Specifically I remember one kids saying the contents of a sugar packet looked like "dope" and another kid that would always say that his partents were on "the spike" and how he tried it before. Could have been BS, but or a 12 year old kid to know that is kind of crazy.

Then again, we had the D.A.R.E. program that pretty much told any kid that didnt already know what was up, what durgs looked like. Do they even have D.A.R.E. anymore? Seems like it was doing more bad than good. It they have it it is probably real watered down, or deals mostly is psychological type stuff.

[chemboy7]

Chem, do you consider them to be good parents? Not because they smoke weed (obvs) but because they really don't seem to care if they have their kids taken away (I could be misreading that, somehow, but that is what I gather from your story) I mean, when you say "What happens if your kid says something to someone at school and DCF shows up?" What do they say? Do they care?

It seems like a really horrible idea. Personally, I would never even risk it but that is why in my hetero and tricking days I was really careful about condoms. I couldn't handle the responsibility of a child.

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I think this is a very good idea for when the kids are older, but a five year old isn't gonna understand.

Oh, they're great parents. Much better than I could ever dream of being. Our shitty childhood really taught my brother what not to do. I'm generally very proud of him; but this lapse in judgement kinda pisses me off a bit.

Do they even have D.A.R.E. anymore? Seems like it was doing more bad than good. It they have it it is probably real watered down, or deals mostly is psychological type stuff.

I really hope they don't. I remember dare from back in the day and I'd prefer my nephews not be subjected to that shit.