Relationships?

[poppy]

As my 7 year relationship seems to have finally died a death tonight! (as a more or less direct result of our addiction to heroin) seriously! I just wondered what impact opiate type drugs may have had on the relationships of fellow members?

[exitwound]

Damn...those are intense moments in one's life. I think that many of us have had similar experiences whether over drugs or some other issue(s).....all I can say at this moment is that you are far from alone and that things definitely will get better, one way or another. Far better than you can probably imagine today. Because my opiate use rises from chronic pain, my issues in this regard are somewhat different....but I can promise you this much, from hard-won experience.....

[doctor diesel]

As my 7 year relationship seems to have finally died a death tonight! (as a more or less direct result of our addiction to heroin) seriously! I just wondered what impact opiate type drugs may have had on the relationships of fellow members?

Poppy,

This is probably marginally off-topic, but I'd just like to say that as the once highly libidinous, husband of a now disabled lady (disablement happened three years ago) I am eternally grateful for the ability of opiates to significantly dampen my ardour. With no sexual outlet whatsoever available to me, the dreaded opiate has come to my rescue by all-but killing my sex drive, such that it no longer presents a problem. The pods are particularly effective for this.
My minor addiction to relatively mild opiates allows me to exercise mind over matter and retain a calm and composed outlook on life - I supose it's a bit like neutering a dog!
So there's one way in which opiate addiction impacts on a relationship - but it's probably not what you were after!

Doc Diesel.

[Coddfish]

Poppy, you are one of the people who gave me advice on a similar thread I started a few weeks back. I had mentioned that, since getting clean(ish) I was feeling unfulfilled in my 10 year relationship. I took the advice posted on this site (although not exclusively) to heart. This thread gives me a chance to update people on my status. The ol' lady and I are splitting up. . . .but in a good way. There was growing tension for many months until we finally made that decision. Once that was done it was a HUGE pressure taken off us. We have since become good friends again and now enjoy each other's company tremendously. More to your question: I think I feel like I wasted a lot of time addicted to opiates. It definitely changed my life in ways beyond my reckoning, and although some of those changes were things I don't regret, many more are difficult to reconcile with who I thought I would be at this point in my life. I now feel I must do some things that are true to who I want to be, and that meant making hard choices about my relationship. Hard, but not bad. We were rarely happy together in all those years, and we are both becoming anxious and a little excited to start new lives in July when she moves. We will always be friends, but I'm not sure how many drug-dependent relationships end the same way. Whatever the particulars in your case, I truly wish you well as you go down this new path in your life. Remember that questionmarks are just signs of opportunity.
coddfish

[blackdog]

when my ol'lady stabbed the water bed with a ballpoint pen,accusing me of taking her morning wake-up shot i knew it was all down hill from there on.
peace da/dawgg:cool:

[flashbit3206]

Basically, if my girlfriend found out that I was using heroin, especially using it on a regular basis, and high most of the time we are together she would flip out and mentally break down. I am not sure that she would break up with me, but I know she would break down mentally, and probably try to help me. Heroin has made me less of a drinker, as in alcohol. I also just find myself kind of spacing myself from other people who do not do H. I like to just enjoy alone time more then I used to and I do not hang out in groups as much anymore now that I use. I would say that it has had a negative impact on relationships with others for myself.

[blahblahblah]

Sorry to hear that Poppy, my condolences. Opiates have wrecked just about ever relationship I have been in. I used to treat my girlfriends like shit untill I got my fix, manipulating them, ridiculing them, just pathetic behavior that at times makes me sick even thinking about it.

Best wishes to you and your loved ones family

Peace

[poppy]

Thanks for your kind wishes Blahblahblah, I wish the same to you and yours.

[THEPAINTER1960]

Thanks for your kind wishes Blahblahblah, I wish the same to you and yours.

Man it seems like just yesterday anyway me and my old lady we got into the heroin scene head over heels. Anyway its all about greed. The more we had the more i wanted never mind anything else.Thank God we got on methadone after along run [many years] So life is good now we are still together after eight years.Peace

[blackdog]

Basically, if my girlfriend found out that I was using heroin, especially using it on a regular basis, and high most of the time we are together she would flip out and mentally break down. I am not sure that she would break up with me, but I know she would break down mentally, and probably try to help me. Heroin has made me less of a drinker, as in alcohol. I also just find myself kind of spacing myself from other people who do not do H. I like to just enjoy alone time more then I used to and I do not hang out in groups as much anymore now that I use. I would say that it has had a negative impact on relationships with others for myself.

i heard that flashbit same here i started h 26 years ago with my girl and took it along with the coke beer/booze weed and sex now all i have is me and the h....pathetic isn't it. the rest i gave up or lost somehow i thinks:cool:

[ontario_opiophile]

I'm such a loner. Opiates don't help it at all. Just sitting around at home is pleasurable when your on opiates. You never really have a need to do anything when your high. Relationships suffer from opiate use, or at least mine do. I would probably be a better friend, fiance, son if i was healthy and not on painkillers. I would at least be more social and look for some sort of interaction with people.

[malefiacrum]

that's wierd you say that ontario_opiophile, I find that it's the oposite with me....I hate being social, but with opiates I am the life of the party (or at least the guy making an ass of himself and making everyone laugh)....I felt the way you do before when I was into other drugs and would sit around the house though....I guess it's different for everybody

[sidman]

now....THAT is a deep subject for ME!! I have lost SO MANY relationships to Dope that it is very saddening. One time,I even had to go and drag a girlfreind off the street because I finally found out she was PROSTITUTING for Dope and that really hurt!! (I didn't hate her for it though,I just told her we could have no more sex between us!) Once I found out,I had to go find her because at the rate hookers get murdered around here,I couldn't leave her out there.
Anyway's...I have had many freind's die from dope too.
I have lost so much to dope.....some things I would consider priceless,literally!!
I am clean off of All opiate's right now,but it feel's like I lost my best girlfreind!! My lady Heroin!!
But it does get better, and Once again I am making freind's, I just have to be careful and realize that we are all just Human!
Good Topic Poppy!

[skeletontea]

that's wierd you say that ontario_opiophile, I find that it's the oposite with me....I hate being social, but with opiates I am the life of the party (or at least the guy making an ass of himself and making everyone laugh)....I felt the way you do before when I was into other drugs and would sit around the house though....I guess it's different for everybody

Sometimes I will indeed be very social, open, outward, friendly. Yet I'd say nearly the majority of the time I'm on opiates I enjoy being alone. There have also been times when opiated with a few friends, that I feel great and really comfortable with them, yet slightly uncomfortable around a few people who come over who aren't high (which is pretty scary if you think about it.)