Opiates and Relationships

[JayTrizzle]

Just wondering...i'm engaged and enjoy my opiophile's life with my fiancee. I was wondering if anyone else finds it easier or harder to be in a relationship while involved in this lifestyle. I'm especially interested in the female perspective, as I don't have a vagina.

[zenpunk]

ok - woman's opinion here - it kind of kills the sex drive a bit (especially when nodding) - but I find it makes one more into being cuddly/chilling out together. As long as both sides are into it its not a big deal.

[bronyraur]

I've never had a relationship last when it involved opiates. Lots of mistrust. If you can combine opiates and a relationship successfully, more power to you.

I can't.

[JayTrizzle]

oh I know it kills sex drive lol, i'm a twenty two year old man boy, I should be humping the wall right now, lol. I agree, I think it makes men more apt to cuddling then they normally would be.

[alowishus]

It made me wanna get dick in her balls deep, excuse my french. :p

She's a straighty, which I am thankful for, if not who knows where I would be now - if she was a user or enabler, I'd most likely be dead, homless, famililess (if it's a word:rolleyes: ), penniless.

Her support understanding and love through kicking was the reason I got through - now if I ever get like that again, she'll mostly likely leave me - and I can't have that happen.
No one else would put up w/ my shit. :o

[JayTrizzle]

that's how i stopped using coke. "i'll leave you if you don't stop." good advice.

[Euphoricgirl]

Yes, I agree it kills the sex drive. Being the closet user that I am, it gets tiring having to find new places to hide your pills so your hubby won't find them and be like why the hell to you have 120 pills hiding in your lingerie drawer? :D

[candy]

Jay,
Opiates and relationships in my opinion just don't mesh well. Sooner or later the drugs your doing are going to interfere with your ability to be in that relationship.

If your girl doesn't know and your going to be married, don't you think she deserves to at least know what she is getting involved in.

I am only speaking from personal experience. I have tried being in a relationship and using H and it just doesn't go well together.

As a woman, I might want to know if my future husband is taking drugs. I think your girl might view it as a trust issue if you keep it from her and she finds out later on!

This is just one woman's opinion and I was the drug fiend and my marriage ended up in divorce because of my drug use. Now I am off of all illicit opiates and on Methadone Treatment, but my current SO knows that and is understanding!

I think you need to look at this in the long term and how it might affect your life a few years from now and the future your beginning with this gal. What is fair to her?

[Seedy]

The thought of telling any potential SO about my habit scares the crap out of me, I have to say. But since I've been on opiates none of my 'relationships' have made the 2 week mark so the issue hasn't come up. My plan when I meet the right girl is to confront the issue when she gets to know the real me so hopefully predudice doesn't get in the way.

[Badly Drawn Girl]

I've been in two relationships since I've had an opiate habit. One was with my with my dealer, and one with my on again off again guy of 17 years. Neither used opiates.

[EnglishOpiumEater]

It depends. They may or may not work, it depends I think on how much you use, if the other person knows and if they like the stuff or not.

I don't find it kills the sex drive at all, in fact I've had some very good sex when on it. The problems I find tend to stem from sharing the dope (if you both like it, some people get greedy and want it all to themselves) and if you are short of money to buy it. That can create mistrust and tension. My partner who I lived with for 3 years is out of the country at the moment and I still can't work out if opiate use had any bearing on the problems we had. Chances are that they did, but I think they played only a small part. He was actually a pothead and I was the opiate fiend, although he would use them he didn't like them as much as me.

Oh...and that was a woman's opinion.

[Rhonda]

I agree with what English said. Relationsips can be affected by so many different things. My partner and I both use sometimes and it doesn't make things any worse.

[JayTrizzle]

nah candy she knows, she imbides from time to time as well, just not her DOC, she likes her fungus, I like my opiates. It meshes well. I couldn't be happier, lol.

[Nostromos]

i've avoided that problem by pushing away anyone who wants to get too close to me.

[fxcx]

there is something to be said for the intamicy developed from getting sick together, more importantly keeping from getting sick together and being partners in such an antisocial "crime". all the partners ive had that i lived the lifestyle with im still really close friends with, the relationships generally end because of a semi-long prison sentence.

[Ragdoll]

I'll say it simply. if it weren't for my DOC I wouldn't have a relationship, because I'd have killed either myself or him years ago. Or both of us. So the DOC allows me to have a relationship.