Survivor or victim

[flipside]

From Websters Dictionary

VICTIM: Someone who has been killed, destroyed, sacrificed...etc.

SURVIVE: To remain alive, or in existance after misfortune.

SURVIVOR: Someone capable of surviving, changing conditions, misfortune...etc.

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I have considered myself a victim for many years and although I am still here, a large part of me has been destroyed.

That part of me was and is a victim.

The part of me that's left ( the person I am today) is a survivor.

I am not the same person I was nor will I ever be that person again

There is no way to save that part of me that has vanished.

I often miss that young girl with all her hopes, dreams and ideals..but

I have said my goodbyes and I am who I am..and will not apologize for it.

It was necessary for my survival to become different person .

A stronger, more wary person, capable of doing and saying things that young innocent would never have dreamed of.

That young innocent is gone forever.

Some people have said to me that this is probably for the best.

They are the ones that have never been a victim or survivor.

it is never a good thing to lose a part of who you are, especially when you know it can never be retrieved.

I'm not the person i was born to be.

I'm the person who walked through Hell..and came out the other side

changed forever...

[nick]

I hear this luv.Hell,I feel much the same way,life wasn't meant to be like this.

Survivor or victim........we're both.

and Luv you're a pretty great human now.

[stormyskier]

I like you the way you are.

[candy]

Flip,

Your an amazing women! You are a survivor, just a victim of the system!

Sending you warm thoughts your way!

You are great just the way you are!

[euphoria2002]

Flip,

Your an amazing women! You are a survivor, just a victim of the system!

Sending you warm thoughts your way!

You are great just the way you are!

All that and more. What you wrote was plain flat-out inspirational!

[candyshop]

you know how i feel sweetheart

[HeidiW]

Flip, I think we're born this way, we were CHOSEN before birth to walk this path, as crazy as it sounds. I know we make our own choices but fuck, I just don't know what the fuck to believe after whats happened in my life since the 1st of the year.

[youwonhundred]

Can't point you, H, but I want you to know, I'm with you in spirit, with every good thought I can muster.

[southernbelle]

Wow. What a moving post, Flip.

[OxyContinuously]

Hi Flip

That was a very concise, and moving way to say that. Oh, and I must say that although I didn't know who you were, I *do* know who you are now, and she is a virtuous, caring, sweet, and self-less lady.

much respect and love, Flip

later

Oxy

[Somanax]

Just a bump to help you remember

and to let you know we are all

with you. Best wishes in the worst

of time's.May thing's improve for

you and your's.

[Opilover]

Flippy hun,,I think you are a great person and I am very honored to be able to be your friend...Much love goes out to you...Stay the way you are I don't think anyone would want you to change especially me...Bigggg Huggss

[robojunkie]

Wow flip, truer words were never spoken...I think that you speak for many, if not all, of us to one degree or another with that post. You truly are a survivor, and whatever part was a "victim", well, like you said, is gone, and the part that survives does just that, and more, lives.

[HeidiW]

You are the definition of survivor

[Somanax]

SORRY FLIP I HAD TO BUMP THIS THREAD FOR YOU BECAUSE

WE LOVE YOU, AND KNOW NOT WHAT TO DO TO HELP YOU.

I WILL CALL YOU SOON AS IN VERY SOON WITH NEW'S FOR YOU.


NOT GONNA LET YOU DOWN

LINK

[HeidiW]

bump bump bump

[Somanax]

flip just thinking about you

I will call you around lunch

hoping you are doing as well

as you can I will not forget you

just want to remind you I still

owe you one and to tell you

I will get smo's /mrs. somanax#

best wishe's and talk to you soon

and I apologize for slowness

sincerely surviving for the living

LINK

[Euphoricgirl]

Flip hasn't been around in a couple of days, anyone heard from her?

[southernbelle]

She's okay. She's just going through some personal stuff right now, and hopefully will be back soon.

[NastyZilla]

Flip, I'm new here... but since I've been here, you have been very kind and supportive of me. Thank you. If there is anything I can do (cliched words, but truly from my heart) please let me know.

You are an an incredibly valuable member of this site ... of society ... of life.

[Somanax]

Just another BUMP for you

flip you happen to be my

favorite administrator

and best of luck to you

and your's told you I am

slow but at least I am honest

well at least I mean what I say

and say what I mean all I posses

is my word and freely given to

you for giving so freely of your

time even with complication's

of your own and hopefully we

can do breakfast on saturday:rolleyes:

bless you Darlin

hugs and more hugs for you


P.S. check out my new avatar:D

[zombiewoof23]

You are one of a kind Flip. The good kind. You have done and are doing more for this community than you will ever know. There is no way for us to show you any kind of truly worthy appreciation in comparison to the wisdom, time and true emotion that you share with us.

[tasteuvheaven]

flip babydoll...you are one of the most wonderful, caring and remarkable women i have ever had the chance to speak to. what u wrote was beautiful and it brought tears to my eyes, because i have been thru something of the sort of what your going thru now...like me and hubby said if you need us call us, and i dunno if you are still coming back to bmore or not within the next few days, but definatly call me and let me know...maybe i can get ya out a little and we can talk (which im sure you could use) i hope you are doing as best as can be expected...we are sending prayers your way, and definatly keep in touch with the board....we are all thinking about you an wanna make sure you are okay.

[Chipper]

I used to see myself as a victim when I fell into addiction but I hated feeling that way.

Now I see myself as a survivor; surviving suicide, detoxing and chipping did the trick.

All the shit we go through does actually make us stronger.

More power to ya, flip

[Somanax]

You know some thing's happen

without reason now you have

confirmation


best as you can be for

you and your family


LOVE

LINK

[bronyraur]

Flip,

What you say is true beyond a doubt. What I can say is that while I never knew the "old" you, the Flip I know today is an incredible person. Words don't really describe you, and I say that as a compliment.