RxQueen
07-25-2007, 11:44 PM
as some of you might remember, i recently posted about how i had to have my ex-bf arrested for assault. i'm still moving to my mom's place, but it'll be another week or two until they can take me in permanently. in the meantime, the ex has been staying elsewhere so that i can pack up the rest of my stuff from this house that we had shared.
i saw him this past monday at the preliminary hearing. he had his whole family there (mom, dad, sister, & brother-in-law), and they all spent their time glaring at me, full of hatred. his dad hired him the best, most expensive lawyer in the county (the one that has all the judges in his back pocket). this lawyer got the simple assault charge dropped, and let the court fine the ex for harassment. (and i saw his dad whip out his checkbook to pay it for him on my way out). my ex's lawyer asked me after the hearing if i minded the constable bringing the ex over to the house, to get more clothing and his "essentials." i said fine, as long as the constable was there.
so that afternoon, the ex showed up with his brother-in-law (& the constable), and they proceeded to empty as much as they could of every drawer & cabinet in the house into boxes. they filled up the whole back of an SUV, and started filling a car with all of the ex's belongings. after about 25-30 minutes of this (and seeing that they were carrying out boxes of candles, CD's, posters, and assorted crap, in other words, NON-essentials), i asked the constable why he was taking everything he owned rather than what i was told. the constable had to tell him 3times to wrap up this process since the court had only told him to remove his "essentials" from the premises. the ex claimed that his lawyer had told him to get everything out that he could, but the constable made him leave because he had been told just to escort the ex to get his necessities.
i wondered why the ex thought that he had to take all he could from here. surely he knows that i'm not the type to trash his stuff! well today's mail brought the answer to my question, and sends me here to ask you all if anyone here knows if i have any legal recourse to protect my privacy. here's what happened.
in today's mail, i received a large manila envelope. it was from my ex's sister. inside it were pages photocopied from one of my old journals, containing VERY incriminating things written during my last run on IV'd speed (about my suicidal depression, fights i'd had with the ex, and semi-coherent ramblings as i complained to myself about my damaged veins, etc). attached to the photocopies is a hand-written page from her, stating that "the remaining 50 plus pages of your nauseating psychotic 'diary' is in a safe deposit box." she proceeds to write that i am a "sick, deranged, psychotic who gains pleasure in torturing others." she also claims to have in this safe deposit box "tapes of (me) threatening to kill him." (<-- this part MUST be a lie, or else he must've secretly been recording a heated argument when either of us was likely to wish the other dead, or wish we had the means to kill the other). she concludes her letter with "try this shit one more time you sick junkie and its you who will go to jail. good luck trying to support yourself LOSER. we all hate you. you're(sic) sugar daddy is gone. FUCK OFF"
once i had read through this harassing threat package, i checked my boxes of stuff. the journal that the pages were photocopied from is in my possession (and as far as i checked, intact). this means that the ex must've stolen it BEFORE the night the assault happened, made his copies, and returned it without my knowledge. now it's apparent to me that he has circulated it to his whole family (that's why they looked like they were shooting knives out of their eyes at me at the hearing). for his sister to be holding copies of my personal writings hostage in a safe deposit box is sickening. the level of rage and vengefulness in her letter makes me think that she's planning to use it against me in the future (send it to future employers, members of my family, etc).
if i thought that the sister had an ounce of maturity (or if i had ANY reason at all to trust her), i would laugh this off. it is sooo far past ridiculous. as far as they're concerned, what she's holding is an experiment i did in creative writing, and is completely fictional. perhaps i might look into getting it published someday. it is MY intellectual property. here's the part where i could use advice from anyone who might know anything about the law in this area.
would i stand any chance if i demanded that my writings be returned to me? i don't want anyone having copies of that stuff, especially one so bent on revenge on me for forcing her brother to face the consequences of his own actions. my notebook was stolen, photocopied and returned without my knowledge or consent. i consider this alone a violation of my privacy, and i fear that it will be used against me in the future. was it an illegal act in the eyes of a court? if she does in fact have any tapes of me saying that i wish i had the means to off her brother, would the recording be in violation of any law? (since i was never informed i was being recorded). and most importantly.... since the family can afford the very best lawyer, do i stand any chance of having a judge rule in my favor, even if i am the one acting in a fully above-the-board legal manner?
this is such an embarassing situation. i KNOW better than to put anything incriminating in writing! i'm a dumb shit for ever having used my personal journal as therapy for myself in working out my perrsonal problems. but i was high out of my damn mind at the time, and doing every drug i could get ahold of. i should've destroyed the notebook after i got off that run, but i kept it to look through.... it was good for me to remember how bad i got that winter, when i was thinking about going back to that shit. now it is possibly going to be the thing that gets used as evidence against me, to ruin my future. what should i do??? i'm going nuts thinking of the things that bitch could do to me with those pages in her hands.
i saw him this past monday at the preliminary hearing. he had his whole family there (mom, dad, sister, & brother-in-law), and they all spent their time glaring at me, full of hatred. his dad hired him the best, most expensive lawyer in the county (the one that has all the judges in his back pocket). this lawyer got the simple assault charge dropped, and let the court fine the ex for harassment. (and i saw his dad whip out his checkbook to pay it for him on my way out). my ex's lawyer asked me after the hearing if i minded the constable bringing the ex over to the house, to get more clothing and his "essentials." i said fine, as long as the constable was there.
so that afternoon, the ex showed up with his brother-in-law (& the constable), and they proceeded to empty as much as they could of every drawer & cabinet in the house into boxes. they filled up the whole back of an SUV, and started filling a car with all of the ex's belongings. after about 25-30 minutes of this (and seeing that they were carrying out boxes of candles, CD's, posters, and assorted crap, in other words, NON-essentials), i asked the constable why he was taking everything he owned rather than what i was told. the constable had to tell him 3times to wrap up this process since the court had only told him to remove his "essentials" from the premises. the ex claimed that his lawyer had told him to get everything out that he could, but the constable made him leave because he had been told just to escort the ex to get his necessities.
i wondered why the ex thought that he had to take all he could from here. surely he knows that i'm not the type to trash his stuff! well today's mail brought the answer to my question, and sends me here to ask you all if anyone here knows if i have any legal recourse to protect my privacy. here's what happened.
in today's mail, i received a large manila envelope. it was from my ex's sister. inside it were pages photocopied from one of my old journals, containing VERY incriminating things written during my last run on IV'd speed (about my suicidal depression, fights i'd had with the ex, and semi-coherent ramblings as i complained to myself about my damaged veins, etc). attached to the photocopies is a hand-written page from her, stating that "the remaining 50 plus pages of your nauseating psychotic 'diary' is in a safe deposit box." she proceeds to write that i am a "sick, deranged, psychotic who gains pleasure in torturing others." she also claims to have in this safe deposit box "tapes of (me) threatening to kill him." (<-- this part MUST be a lie, or else he must've secretly been recording a heated argument when either of us was likely to wish the other dead, or wish we had the means to kill the other). she concludes her letter with "try this shit one more time you sick junkie and its you who will go to jail. good luck trying to support yourself LOSER. we all hate you. you're(sic) sugar daddy is gone. FUCK OFF"
once i had read through this harassing threat package, i checked my boxes of stuff. the journal that the pages were photocopied from is in my possession (and as far as i checked, intact). this means that the ex must've stolen it BEFORE the night the assault happened, made his copies, and returned it without my knowledge. now it's apparent to me that he has circulated it to his whole family (that's why they looked like they were shooting knives out of their eyes at me at the hearing). for his sister to be holding copies of my personal writings hostage in a safe deposit box is sickening. the level of rage and vengefulness in her letter makes me think that she's planning to use it against me in the future (send it to future employers, members of my family, etc).
if i thought that the sister had an ounce of maturity (or if i had ANY reason at all to trust her), i would laugh this off. it is sooo far past ridiculous. as far as they're concerned, what she's holding is an experiment i did in creative writing, and is completely fictional. perhaps i might look into getting it published someday. it is MY intellectual property. here's the part where i could use advice from anyone who might know anything about the law in this area.
would i stand any chance if i demanded that my writings be returned to me? i don't want anyone having copies of that stuff, especially one so bent on revenge on me for forcing her brother to face the consequences of his own actions. my notebook was stolen, photocopied and returned without my knowledge or consent. i consider this alone a violation of my privacy, and i fear that it will be used against me in the future. was it an illegal act in the eyes of a court? if she does in fact have any tapes of me saying that i wish i had the means to off her brother, would the recording be in violation of any law? (since i was never informed i was being recorded). and most importantly.... since the family can afford the very best lawyer, do i stand any chance of having a judge rule in my favor, even if i am the one acting in a fully above-the-board legal manner?
this is such an embarassing situation. i KNOW better than to put anything incriminating in writing! i'm a dumb shit for ever having used my personal journal as therapy for myself in working out my perrsonal problems. but i was high out of my damn mind at the time, and doing every drug i could get ahold of. i should've destroyed the notebook after i got off that run, but i kept it to look through.... it was good for me to remember how bad i got that winter, when i was thinking about going back to that shit. now it is possibly going to be the thing that gets used as evidence against me, to ruin my future. what should i do??? i'm going nuts thinking of the things that bitch could do to me with those pages in her hands.